Women’s Liberation: In the 1960’s, it began as a way for women to demand equality in the workplace, politics and the law. Being a woman, I’m extremely thankful for this movement, which makes it much easier to be a woman in the 21st century. But it seems as though the definition has changed. In order to be a liberated woman, society tells me I need to work 60 hours a week, put my needs before those of my family, and regularly make men cry.
A few weeks ago I went to the gym at my usual time: 6 a.m. The man at the counter said, “Are you trying to get in that workout before you go to work.” I explained that I am a stay-at-home-mom, and I don’t have a “job” in the traditional sense of the word. He replied with, “Oh you stay home? Well that’s alright.” I looked at him for a moment and then assured him, “I’m not apologizing. I work hard and I’m very proud of what I do.”
My intent here is not to discount working mothers. Many mothers work, whether by choice or by need, and still find time to be fabulous mothers. I tip my frilly bonnet to them. The point is, you can still be a strong, liberated woman; even if you stay in the home rather than work. Being liberated doesn’t mean discounting all the values our ancestors taught us. It’s okay for women to be kind, gentle, modest and nurturing. These don’t add up to being weak. It’s liberating.
I may not go out everyday and conquer the workforce, but I do help conquer the fears of a small child afraid of the dark. I may not work in a hospital saving lives, but I’ve lost many night’s sleep trying to bring down a fever or calm a child with a stomach ache. And I may not teach at a university, but I try to turn almost everything in our daily lives into a learning experience for my children.
Stay-at-home-moms help shape the future of our society. That is a very powerful role and should be acknowledged as such.
So ladies, if you choose to work, do so with pride. If you choose to stay at home, do so with pride. Strength comes from sacrifice, pushing yourself beyond what you think you’re capable of and being proud of your role in life.
I’m a woman, I’m a stay-at-home-mom and I’m a liberated woman. I wear each of those titles with pride.